In many Islamic countries, the word shayari or sister in Arabic and Urdu means friend or any female who is close to a man. This type of woman is respected by her family and is not allowed to work outside the home. She is considered an assistant to her brother and it is expected of her to help her brother financially, teach him the meaning of the Quran and to take care of his family.
Attitude shayari who follows all these guidelines is considered a ‘good sister’. But it does not mean that a single shayari cannot mix with any other girl who is younger than her. In fact, it is the opposite! This article will explain why a single shayari must have a positive, proactive and polite attitude and how you can follow her example.
The first thing you should do when you find a attractive brother is to be confident and stay away from negative thoughts. If she is smart enough to date a young man, she obviously has more than money and social status to burn. So be careful not to let your greed blind you. If she asks you to give her some money for something and you accept her offer, do not waste time and run after her to give her your own money.
She would not ask you to give her your hand in marriage if you do not deserve it. Her family would surely judge her if you accept her offer without being deserving of it. So make sure that you have the right kind of attitude. Even if you don’t want to marry her just yet, make sure you have a very positive approach towards her. She will definitely appreciate your efforts and appreciate the fact that you are trying hard to fulfill your priorities.
A good holic attitude means prioritizing your duties above all else. It does not mean that you should do all the things at the expense of your personal desires. You still have to have a personal life as well. The fact that you are going out with her shows that you have some important things to do apart from her.
In fact, it would be a good idea to spend some quality time away from her. She may appear to be your friend but deep down inside, she is actually only another object in your love relationship. You have to learn to differentiate between friends and lovers. Friends treat you like a best friend and try to understand your situation and your needs. On the other hand, lovers shower you with gifts and show their affections through verbal and physical interactions.
Do not be fooled into thinking that showing affection to her will earn you her heart. She is much more interested in knowing whether or not you are going to pay her anymore or if you can keep up with her schedules. So you have to find ways to prove that you can maintain your finances on your own. She would only see you as a loser if you cannot keep up with her.
The next time you see her, do not give your phone number or home number to her. If you do this, she will think that you are moving on. She has to realize that you have other options aside from her. She has to realize that there are other people who care more about the guy that they are with than they do about her. So the sooner you realize this, the better it is for both of you.